3 Ways To Help Your Kids Stop request You For Stuff

"No matter what I buy my son he is still not happy he keeps on bothering us to get him more."
"My child is always pushing me to do things for her, it never ends. She wants to go shopping, to the movies, to get her hair done..."
"How can I get my child to stop asking for everything?"

Wanting and desiring things is a human trait. We have basic drives and one of them is the drive to acquire. This drive is what finally causes us to be absorbing about our world, it fuels our ambitions and makes us passionate about life. Without it humanity would still be in the dark ages.

Hard Drive

This is what we are looking in our children. It is the drive to collect in an unadulterated form. It is quite normal for kids to want things and because of their poor impulse control they need to have it right now and they need everything.

When children are asking us for the most recent electronic game, toy and stuffed animal we don't need to get upset with them for their endless and insatiable desires. That is normal. It is how it should be. Any way we need to remember that we do not need to give in to their urgent pleas. We can and should say no.

In this situation we can corollary a 3 step plan:
1. Quote the question with empathy:
"I hear how much you want the most recent American Girl doll. I know Andrea has it. I can imagine it can be hard to see your best friend have something that you don't."
2. construe briefly why you are saying no:
"The question is in this family we get toys on our birthdays and on Chanukah.
3. Say no:
"I will not be getting you an AmercianGirl doll."

Unfortunately this will not stop your children from pleading and stating their case like the best lawyer you know. This is their inalienable right. Parents have ownership too. We do not have to listen to the endless arguments. You can empathize some more and then end the conversations:

"I hear how upset you are and how angry. It is hard to want something so badly and not get it. I wish I had time to listen some more but I have to quit cooking dinner. I need to do that with quiet. Please find someone else place to calm down."

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3 Ways To Help Your Kids Stop request You For Stuff